T N C E N C O

Why is it important to CONNECT with others?

C – OMMUNITY

  • A unified body. Friends sharing daily life.
  • Where you can be yourself, be completely candid and completely you.

O – OPENNESS

  • Open to meeting new people, trying new things.
  • No preconceived notions, show up in your PJs, with or without makeup. 
  • No judging: you aren’t judging them; and you can trust they aren’t judging you.

N – NETWORKING

  • Supporting one another in each other’s gifting’s.
  • Don’t have to be able to do it all on our own.
  • We have the ability to meet and get to know women from all across the world. We can gain new recipes, new traditions, help with crafts, help with organizational needs, help with gardening, help with cleaning… 

N – NOT ALONE

  • Not sure this one even needs to be explained.
  • YOU ARE NOT and WILL NOT BE ALONE

E – EXPERIENCE

  • Experience life together. 
  • Sometimes it takes a friend to pull us out of a slump.
  • This one can be so big for us military wives because this community is our family. Not blood, but through kindred experiences, family. We may be far geographically from our flesh and blood family, but we can still have friends as close as family. 

C – CARING

  • Find someone who you can care for, and someone who can care for you.
  • In other words, find a mentor and be a mentor to someone.

T – TALK

  • Talk to someone you want to be a friend with, or think you may want to be friends with.
  • Everybody wants a friend. 
  • To have a friend you must BE a friend. (Keep an eye out for a future post about this.)
  • If you see an older woman who seems wise, kind, and catches your attention… BE BOLD – go ask her, “hey would you like to get coffee sometime?” **I think this is key for military wives again because when we are far from family it is good to find a local momma, grand-momma, aunty. Someone who has experienced more of this military life and can speak into our lives having gone through it.
    • This one I must say I did really well at our past duty station. I can’t even count on my hands (and toes haha) how many AMAZING women I had in my life. AND TO THOSE WOMEN, you know who you are, Thank you. Thank you for being a part of my family while in Q-Town! Thank you for loving us. Thank you for texts, phone calls, coffees, earrings/shoes, picking me up while pregnant and past due- just in case my water breaks (haha), donuts, meals, gift cards…

Our ancient enemy

… “prowls around like a roaring lion seeking someone to devour (1 Peter 5:8 NASB)”…  In the wild, a predatory animal looks for the young, the weak, and the wounded. Then the predator will seek to separate the vulnerable one from the herd. Isn’t this exactly what Satan does? Isolation is one of our great enemies today. 

….We should not allow ourselves to become isolated either. We were created for connection and relationship. We need a community of others who can keep us accountable, speak truth into our lives, and hold us up when we’re weak. 

…What better way to go through all of those life’s experiences than with other women who will love us unconditionally, cry with us when we hurt, pray for us in our sorrow, and rejoice with us in our victories… 

Only One Life: How a Woman’s Every Day Shapes and Eternal Legacy by Jackie Green and Lauren Green McAfee (page 132-133)

This past year I gained a group of friends that I’m not sure I will ever be able to replicate. We had a weekly bible study, bachelorette nights, birthday parties, park dates, shopping dates, going away parties… But the lasting legacy of this group of beautiful hearts and souls is our group text. This group chat used to be full of invitations to the park, to each other’s houses, to grab a coffee, but it has turned into an open chain of prayer. This group of women I know I can count on to pray for me any time of day! (This is especially true since we now span multiple time zones). A group I can count on to not judge and offer simple solutions (even though often times they do have solutions), but offer prayer. 

As Lauren said in the book,

The thief comes steal and kill and destroy [our dreams, desires, hopes, and passions], but I came that they may have life and have it abundantly.  — John 10:10 ESV

Let’s kick that prowling lion to the curb and make a new friend this week!