Grace Not Guilt

As I was driving to Mothers of Preschoolers (MOPS) this morning I had so many great ideas and words flowing through my mind. But now, as I actually have a moment to sit down and type I worry that the words won’t be there. 

Today was a rough morning for me. Not only this morning but yesterday morning was as well. Yesterday I felt like I was “literally” knee deep in spit up. But as my husband would say, literally or figuratively? I was definitely, figuratively knee deep in spit up, toys on the floor, fussy teething baby and another little one who wants (in a very loud voice) another piece of her trick or treat candy. I did, however, get to sweep and mop the downstairs floors (well.. half of it anyway).

I have to take a tiny rabbit trail and say I look at the downstairs and think it shouldn’t take that long to sweep and mop the floor… but that is easier said when I am sitting quietly during naptime…

Today, I was struggling to get out the door to MOPS on time and felt as though from every angle something was slowing me down. (P.S. If you are a stay-at-home mom, you should look for a local MOPS group!) I will share the best part of trying to get out of the door this morning: I was putting on false lashes this morning in practice for our Marine Corps birthday ball this week; I was testing out getting them on and seeing how long they would stick. Garage door open, the kids book bags and my purse were already in the car and all we needed to do was get into our seats and we were off! But my little ham of a boy has been enjoying “roughly” showing his affection with head bumps and his hands all over my face. He basically grabbed my eye and false lash with it. I threw the kids (figuratively again, haha!) into the car, ran upstairs and tried to reapply that lash as fast as possible, then restrained myself from crying on the drive to because the glue was still a little damp!

In the midst of my last two days I felt as though these days weren’t going to end. All I wanted to do was put a movie on and let the kids sit and be calm. All I wanted to do was sit watch with them. But my mind was screaming at me about all the things I should being doing around the house… or all the things I should be doing with the kids (ie. crafts, playing at the park, reading a book, all the “perfect” mommy activities, etc.) not just sitting on the floor and doing nothing for an hour or two. 

I saw this quote on IG from Joanna Gaines, 

“… I know that at times it can be hard to find simple ways to connect with your kids. Especially in the tired and the hard and busy times in life. It can feel like it’s all or nothing. But I really believe it’s somewhere in the middle where the grace is extended and these simple unplanned moments are actually the sweetest. I write this all for any of you out there who may experience “mom-guilt”. I promise you that’s a never ending cycle that leads to nowhere. Replace the word guilt with grace. Look for grace in the moments, the small wins that lead to the greatest investments in their little hearts. From one mom to another, stop being so hard on yourself. Don’t spend another second focusing on failure, instead use whatever time and whatever energy you have and look for moments where grace can be found. Because I’m telling you, this grace is sufficient.”

I don’t even know how to even follow that great quote. So I won’t other than saying: stop focusing on failure, or really who deems what failure looks like. Stop focusing on a perceived failure, stop focusing on guilt, and replace that with GRACE. Give yourself grace momma! 

You are doing a great job!

You are the person God placed in your child’s life to be their mommy!

No one else can do the job like you can! 

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