Not at all the post I had planned for this week. For the second week in a row. And since I have only just begun this blog, I think I need to expect for last minute changes. Or maybe, is it, I need to listen to God better the first time? But even as I type that sentence out, it is not ironic that it goes along with the whole topic that I’m going to try and chat about today.
Alright, friends, this is me opening up and getting real. It is h.a.r.d. to put this out there. But, well here I am going with it because that’s the way I feel led to go.
Here we go:
"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt
‘Gonna repeat that again, a little different, but just as true.
"Comparison is the thief of everything." - Lara Casey
… let’s pause a moment here and let that sink in.
I have heard this quote at least once a week, I believe for the last 3 or 4 weeks. By women who do not even know each other.
Not sure if it’s just me, and my own daily struggle? Who am I kidding, sometimes hourly struggle. Or, is it not just me? Are there many of us out there who deal with this very real struggle of comparison?
Here is what my last few weeks have looked like:
This just happened yesterday, my daughter continually stealing snacks from a friend’s daughter. Even warning her, “okay, last gold fish, and then no more.” Then repeat that scenario at least one more time. (Again, who am I kidding she ate probably more than half of the snack).
- Then feeling as though I need to apologize to that friend.
- She wouldn’t let her daughter do that.
- That was so rude of me to just keep letting her eat the snacks.
- I really should apologize.
- Ugh.. I NEVER wanted to be that mom. Who empty threatens and warns
- with no consequence.
- This is silly…
She has such a cute Instagram account. Even with her families “real life” moments, they are just adorable.
- I wish I could be a better instagram’er.
- I wish my family was that cute.
- I wish I could capture better pics to post.
- I wish… I wish…
- Her makeup LOOKS SO BEAUTIFUL. Mine is BLEH.
- My thirty-year-old zits coming out of the woodwork, like – hey haven’t seen you since junior high!
- Her brows! Mine are uneven and hello thirties and what about losing their pigment along with patchiniess?!
So and So’s houses are decorated just adorable, why can’t I seem to get it together?
- Here I am a month and a half in and struggling to keep the kitchen clean yet alone hang all my pictures and décor.
Here’s another one, look how cute everyone else’s hair looks here in Cali.
- There’s hardly any humidity here, WHY ON EARTH is mine acting so funky here?!
This list can surely go on. I’m sure many of you could add a few things on a list of your own?
Ladies, we have…
No, we NEED to crush comparison!
I was at MOPS yesterday and our speaker Kirsten Casillas, with Blooming Faith Ministries, was speaking to us about this topic. She said,
- It’s a lie every time.
- You aren’t less-than and she isn’t perfect. She isn’t less than and you aren’t perfect.
- Stop the narrative.
- Replace comparison with connection – you have more in common that you think.
- We can’t compare our yucky outsides to another person’s beautiful outsides.
Then later in the day, after taking a break from writing, I was on Instagram and saw this very timely post by LysaTerKeurst,
Hello beautiful. Stop scrolling thinking about how much better her life is than yours. Trust me on this. I’ve learned to say to myself... “I’m not equipped for the bad that comes along with that good. It’s always a package deal. And if I really saw the full picture, I’d probably never want that package. I’d just be a little more grateful for my life.”
The grass is not always greener on the other side.
Here is also some wonderful news, we have these amazing wonderful women and people that we obviously look up to and adore. Why not ask them, hey I love the way you style your house, can you help a girl out? Or even, telling your friend, man I just love the way you parent your child. Encourage her instead of putting yourself down.
We have people in our paths. Let’s CONNECT with them, grow with them and STOP allowing the enemy to steal, kill and destroy.
The bible says in John 10:10, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.”
We know the end game of the enemy. He wants to steal, kill and destroy our lives. To bring comparison, sadness, depression, frustration.
Let’s kick this terrible habit of comparing ourselves, and let’s embrace our friends and the things they are good at. Let’s not wish we were them and want to be just like them. We are all beautiful and unique in our own ways. The world needs us and the world needs our friends. If we were all the same life would get a little boring don’t ya think?
Let’s celebrate and praise the one who created us, the way he intended us to be!
We have an enemy out there who wants to tear us down… why on earth are we doing it to ourselves?
Finally, I am gonna wrap this up with yet another timely song that I have been hearing everywhere lately.
I am chosen
I am who you say I am
You are for me
Not against me
I am who you say I am
We are children of God.
We are and can be set free from these negative thoughts and lies that want to plague us!
Well that sums it up today friends. I pray that this might help encourage you in your week!